Commas Of Happiness

In life we are always facing some situations which bring us joy and a lot of them bring sadness. The ratio would be higher on the unhappiness side. When we experience these simple joys, we wish they could be prolonged and stretched for a longer duration.

Take the case of a child, when the candy comes to an end he wants it to go on.

We also wish that the accolades we received at office goes on for a longer duration.

But we soon realize that these do not last. We are again facing the barrage of sadness and sorrows in life.

When we have a job we are constantly cribbing that we are getting a raw deal and when we get a newer job we like it the first few days and then it seems like we have been pushed from the frying pan into fire.

In relationships also we are happy in the beginning and then it starts to all go awry.

We expect the partner to do as per our wishes and desires and he expects us to conform to his ways of life. The disconnects are many. These are due to our expectations and desires.We meet this great person in our life and fall in love with him and we then care so much for him that we do as much as possible for being closer to him. We give and do not expect much when we are deeply in love. But when we culminate it into a deeper relationship like a marriage or partnership, we then start to expect a lot from him. He keeps his clothes on the floor, dirties the loo, is so sloppy that we wonder if his mother has ever taught him how to pee also? God, he is so obnoxious, that he never leaves his game, watches the telly all day long, gets his friends over and expects me to clean and cook up. Did you see, how it has deteriorated now? It is all about expectations from him by you. Now look at his side.

He wanted someone to cook for him ,take him in her arms when he came home, rear kids for him, help him with his tensions and so on. In effect he expects you to be a maid, a massuse, sex bomb, helper, mother and so on. These are his expectations. Well, didn't you know all along that he was a slob and she was a slop? So now this happiness which you are hoping is gone away.

They both live in a relationship full of discomfort and pain. Hoping someday that something might give in or give up.

Now look at all of us. We expect a lot from every other person, except our ownself.

So let us start with expecting our good self to know that this life is just a play of some great power and we are just some actors playing a part.

We are not supposed to like or dislike the part we play but just be natural actors acting out a part of a husband or wife or whatever.

Once the curtain falls the play gets over, to begin another one.

The art of just understanding that we are a mere puppets playing the part will help us not to associate with the other characters of the stage, but know that they too are mere puppets in the hand of the master puppeteer.This will bring the expectations down and we can then prolong our happiness by fully knowing that we act out a part only in this stage called life.

This knowledge is called discrimination in the spiritual world.

To know between the real and the unreal.

To be able to separate the husk from the grains.

Let us then focus on what is the real and consider the unreal as just another act which we have to put on as a character of mother, father, husband, wife, child and so on. Let us know that someone else who pulls the cords is the real one only.

True extended happiness lies in just being good actors and knowing that we are just acting out tight script for this grand stage of life.