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Familiarity Breeds Contempt

Familiarity breeds contempt is an adage quite common to all of us. We take too many things for granted in a relationship. Expectations and desires are the root cause of discomfort and distress in everybody's life.  The wife expects the husband to tell her where he went and what he did there. She wants him to give a detailed description of activities conducted and account for every minute spent. Likewise, the man expects her to perform her wifely duties or tasks diligently. Even if she is a working woman, he expects her to do many chores at home too. He offers her limited freedom and any act of so called unwritten rules of conduct, she has to face his ire.  When any man/woman gets into a relationship with another person, they slowly acquire control over the being of that person. Directing every action of their lives. The freedom to act or perform even mundane tasks becomes a rigorous regime. Let me give you an example here. Let's say a young man gets into a relationship with a g

Single Or Marry?

Should I remain single or should I marry? Often people ask me whether I am advocating marriage or to remain single? As a spiritual being I cannot advocate anything or something at all. But since I am addressing normal human beings who live in the world in a very normal manner, I have to talk to them alone. My spiritual discussion should not be construed wrongly here.  Now every man can get married to whomsoever they feel comfortable with. In our society today everyone has their own choices based on their personal preferences so I am not here to condone anyone for whatever leanings they may have. Marriage is a sacred human bond of oneness which calls for living in harmony with that individual with whom you legally tie yourself in. It's not that humans don't have a disagreement but living in harmony is of prime importance for better development of the bond.  See here, I wrote the word bond and it surely talks of being bound to that human or in bondage with that individual in the

Extreme Hatred

Why this extreme hatred for fellow human beings, you may ask? There are shootings, rapes, plunders, wars, senseless killings and so on. You wonder when it will come to an end. If you are that optimist who believes in good human nature, you will be in for a terrible shock. The power of evil grows exponentially and is never on the wane. You better watch out!  When you find similar incidents happening to you, the impact is phenomenal. Disagreement between spouses, siblings, parents and children, friends and so on, creates so much of discomfort for us that we hate it ourselves. Yet, we continue to have ill will and hold grudges. You proceed in your life with bitterness, not allowing goodness to flow back in.  Why does a human being have so much of hatred for another fellow human? Surely there has to be some terribly distorted reason for the evil to flourish. It is memories and how they get distorted for us. Memories are like those condiments and spices stored in cool dry places for future

Nothing Here

Welcome to my blog, you will get nothing here! What do people come to me for? Why would they visit a nondescript person like me?  Material worldly needs drives them to approach. Their desires are very small and mostly achievable in their normal course of life. These are destined and happen to come to them very naturally.  Look at someone coming for seeking a job. Don't you think that they would defiantly get one? Isn't it inevitable and very plausible? They just need to look around and they will surely find one. After all it was destined and they just walked up to it. What they need to do is summed up in two words- self effort. Once they sincerely tried looking for one, they would surely land it. So what has some nobody like me supposed to do there? I can only give a motivating talk or some sort of encouragement to look out for some good opportunities.  Again there are those who come specifically for marriage. They are desperate to get married. Sometimes they have exhausted the

Which Language?

So which language should I learn? Should I try learning Spanish or French or should I be practicing Swahili or Quechua? Why would a man want to indulge in different languages if it is meant for daily living?  From my point of view you need to know about three languages in total. First I would suggest your mother tongue so that when you wish to communicate with your parents or siblings you are able to do so. So your language of absolute necessity is your mother tongue. Why mother tongue you may ask? Your mother who is the epitome of love talks to you more than your dad. She feeds you, clothes you and generally takes care of all your needs as a child. So knowing your mother tongue is imperative.  Next comes the language of the region you live in. It is the state language or the language of the land. Some people construe it as region specific so be it. Only if you are not willing to move around in different zones or regions should you know specific to that region language. As an example,

Complacent Man

Why does man become complacent, lazy, lethargic, inert and weak within himself when he is so much capable of achieving whatever he aims for? Why does man not do things for his own self but does it for others?  I remember long ago, my two uncles who were electrical and air conditioning experts working for a multinational corporation, refusing to change the switch which had blown up at home and cleaning the filter of the air conditioner. Why would they refuse to do the jobs which they were willing to do for someone else?  Now look at yourself, at office you make beautiful presentations, arrange for meetings, coffee, tea, snacks, slides, AV projectors, conference rooms, etc., and send out calendar invites to all your colleagues and down lines and have meetings. But the same is never followed at home. You are sloppy at homework, never in time for anything, never would prepare for your kids tuitions or doing homework, never would you have a systematic approach to teaching your own spouse or

Famous And Successful

Some get famous and successful too early in life. When you want to put someone on a pedestal, you better have good reasons for doing that. Some people love to rise and rise and then fall flat on their butts. It is better to go steadily and efficiently to the top otherwise the fall will be imminent. Why make attempts in a rush to get to your destination when you can efficiently plan to get there at the perfect moment? Sometimes it is not about "time," but about efficacy and steadiness of action. You can't sculpt marble in a hurry, right?  In this creation, God has planned even the last wave of the ocean and the last breath of man. His power of planning can be seen even in the finest and the tiniest of the detail of an ant. But we love to rush with half baked ideas to try reach our destination with disastrous results.  When they send rockets in space, the amount of fine planning that goes into it is mind boggling. Even a simple weather change can cause billions of dollars i