All Because You Want To Get Married!

Someone came to ask me whether they should get married or not.
I told them that they should but before they get into a serious relationship like marriage, they should think of all the things associated with it.
Marriage is a great institution and should not be marginalized at all. Remember it is an institution for the furtherment of our race.
When we get married we talk of starting a family.
First there are two-husband and wife and then there are host of others which join the race. From in-laws to distant relatives and we have to pander to every ones whims and fancies. Can you imagine a father in law who is a lecherous flirt or a mother-in-law who just watches the telly all day long? She can recite the entire family serials and would be able to relate to all the characters from every different serials! A brother in law whose job is to turn up dead drunk in the middle of night.
Then comes the adjustment of salaries and individual egos.
Who would be cooking and when do we have dinner outside?
The initial haze can be quite an eye opener. We stumble through the whole of bleary eyed honeymoon period to the hard facts of life.
Then comes the time for children and all that follows.
Early morning sickness to loads of pills and the different visits to gynec.
The grand preparation for the young addition to your family.
Selection of hospitals to the entire lists of stuff to be bought for delivery from nursing bra to nighties.
Nappies to an entire new wardrobe.
Then you have to consider who will take care of the baby once it is born.
The massages to changing of size, sleepless nights to getting to work in one piece.
Then time moves on when all and sundry want to pull the cheeks of the little one.
How many people who you like to save the little one from, esp your mother in law!
Time to move on to newer and newer size changes in shoe to clothes for the child.
Then it is the time for birthday celebrations and how many to be invited.
Time to look out for a nursery or child care centre where the nanny does not eat the snacks provided to the kid.
Then it is time for the grand selection of schools and buying of uniforms to meeting the teachers often.
Complaints and annual days, donations to mothers day and fathers days.
Parents race, dramatics where the kid is playing the tree and singing a song for the stage. You gotta have the whole thing shot in 70mm with sound effects.
Should I stop here or continue further?
The evil story has just begun and you can as well imagine the end where you are retiring and the kids are nowhere in sight.
Loosing your spouse and yet having to live the ignominy of facing the society and housing colony together. Living within the means yet not living within them.
All because you wanted to get married?


Comments

Prasanna Rao said…
you have nicely put together the entire journey of marriage. Sure to deter anyone thinking of getting married. :)
July 28, 2011 at 10:51 PM
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